Avoid beating on yourself with your own thoughts!

Jan Normanton • February 2, 2025

Try the Ho oponopono mantra instead to transform negative thoughts for peace of mind and better health

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If you are stressed, consider somatic massage or somatic coaching and know that your body has a whole set of inbuilt ways to help you manage your inner states.

When we have mean, nasty thoughts about people and situations, the invitation is to change that energy.


We’re not actually directing negative energy towards the person or the thing as we might think we are.


A good example being when we’re driving. We might have a spot of road rage and we get angry with the drivers who are going so slowly; we might get angry with the drivers who go too fast… and we might have some nasty thoughts about those – resentful, angry, rageful thoughts.


And yet that energy goes nowhere. It stays within us. It comes right back at us.


And this is why the greats such as the Buddhist philosophy is all about forgiveness, letting go, releasing those base sentiments, feelings and thoughts that are not serving us.


Because they serve to only harm ourselves.


I found the Ho oponopono philosophy is a great one. There’s a whole philosophy around the whole Ho oponopono however there’s a simple, easy, quick mantra that I use when I find myself getting a bit annoyed, frustrated, angry and the energy simply sits within me.


And this Ho oponopono mantra goes like this -  I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you and I thank you.


I’m sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

And I thank you


And in that process we dissolve that base energy, we resolve all that negative sentiment, we can feel expansive, liberated, free, kinder, compassionate not only for the other person but more importantly for ourselves.


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